There are a lot of things that I love about Dustin. I could list all of his qualities and attributes that I love and admire, but instead I'd like to focus on one thing and that is his attitude towards women.
When Dustin's co-workers first learned that I was pregnant, a lot of people began asking him if he wanted a boy this time around. I knew from the beginning that Dustin loved raising our little Isabelle and that he had no problems about having another girl. He expressed his thoughts to those he worked with and a lot of people, specifically the men in the group, were astonished by his response. How could it be possible that he didn't want a boy? A boy to carry on the family name! A boy to watch sports with. A boy to hunt with. People were really flabbergasted. And that really bothered Dustin, and not because he's neither interested in sports or hunting, but because he felt people were suggesting there's something wrong with having a girl. That a girl is somehow less than compared to boys.
One night after work, Dustin told me what had been said to him at work. When it came to carrying on the family name, my immediate response was, "People know that women don't have to change their last name when they get married, right?" Dustin laughed because he said that was his first thought too.
We talked about everything for awhile, and things settled down at the office. In fact, most people predicted we would have another girl.
Don't get me wrong, I don't think any of his co-workers meant to offend. And they didn't really offend Dustin by what they said. I think it was more shocking than anything.
I'm so thankful for Dustin because of his attitude towards women. He has always treated me like his equal. He has never done or said anything that suggests he is somehow superior to me simply because of his gender. We also recognize that while we're equal, we're different in that we have different strengths and weaknesses and personalities.
I think Isabelle is the luckiest girl in the world to have Dustin as her dad. I know he's going to be so supportive of her throughout her life. He will expect certain things from her and hope certain things for her, but overall will encourage her to do whatever she wants in life. He won't put any limitations on her because she is a girl.
And I know he's so excited to welcome our new baby girl into the family.
After all, nothing can compare to the father-daughter relationship.