The other night, my friend Becky e-mailed me a link to post she had read that she thought was just unreal. She wanted my take on it, and even suggested I use it for one of my "What the..." posts. I was more than happy to read the post, and was even more thrilled that she was helping me keep up my weekly goal of posting about my "What the..." experiences.
Anyway, you can read the original post here, and then the follow-up post here. In a nutshell, the blogger writes about a disagreement that her friend and her friend's husband are having. Becky didn't tell me about the post because of the disagreement itself, but rather the fact that this blogger would post about someone else's very private matter, a matter that has absolutely nothing to do with her. Whether this blogger got permission from her friend to do so is unclear, but I'm going to assume she did.
Another aspect of the post that was interesting was that people were commenting on it and giving answers and solutions with absolutely no other information than was given in the brief post.
My initial reaction to this post was that it was pretty bold for someone else to blog about it, rather than the people directly involved. But, then I thought maybe this friend didn't want to blog about it herself, but did want the advice from other people. Mind you, advice from what very well could be complete strangers.
I eventually e-mailed Becky back and said it was a little "what the..." that someone would choose to blog about her friend's marital problems, and that I thought it would've been a much better post had the people involved been the ones to blog about it.
But, I also said that perhaps this post had done some good for someone out there. Not so much the couple themselves, but another reader that was going through a similar situation. After all, blogs and the Internet in general have become a great source for people to know that they are not alone in this world and that there is almost always someone else who understands what you are going through.
I think the most "what the..." about this entire situation is that people were so quick to comment about it. Sure, I posted about a situation that had nothing to do with me, but it had nothing to do with the state of someone's marriage. Do you think as readers, we should be less quick to offer our two cents, especially when we have extremely limited, very one-sided information? Are we adding fuel to the fire by commenting when, in all honesty, it really isn't any of our business?
And, yes, I appreciate the irony that I am informing you about a situation that I have basically deemed too personal for the Internet. :)