I have two younger brothers, Jonathan and Matthew. Both of them will be embarking on new adventures within the next few weeks - both of which are things that I have gone through myself. So, what kind of older sister would I be if I did not freely give of my wisdom?
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Jonathan
Your life as you now know it is changing. It is not ending. It is just changing.
Be content in knowing that there really isn't any way to be completely prepared. Sure, the nursery is all put together and you have a plethora of blankets and clothes. But, when all is said and done there is no way to fully prepare yourself for how you will feel when you hold your sweet bundle of joy in your arms for the first time.
You may feel an immediate bond. You may not. Either way is perfectly normal.
Your baby will entice all sorts of emotions within you. You may find yourself being completely frustrated to utterly giddy within minutes.
Be prepared to learn how to do all things using only one hand.
Changing a diaper could, at first, take you 15 minutes. But, before you know it, you'll be a pro.
I don't doubt you'll find yourself looking at your lovely wife and thinking, "She's a natural."
It's easy to focus on all the horrors of parenthood, so instead think about all the memories you have with your (our) dad. Think about the first time he helped you ride a two-wheel bike. You're going to be that dad some day. Think about the first time he took you to Disneyland. You're going to be that dad some day. Think about the first time he let you drive a car. You're going to be that dad some day.
You will be a wonderful father. And you couldn't ask for a better mother for your child. Together, you two will make a great home for your daughter.
And always remember, that one day, your little girl, will say to her friends, "One time, my dad...."
Make sure her "One time, my dad..." stories are good ones!
Matthew
You're leaving the land of your birth and moving out of state! Trust me when I say that I am 100% excited for you. I'm glad that you and your beautiful wife will be embarking on this adventure together. It's easy to completely change your surroundings when you have the love of your life by your side.
Moving away from family and friends can be difficult at first. But, just think about how fun it will be to meet new people and form new friendships. The friendships you make will have a great impact on your new life. Make sure they are good friends, and people that place similar importance on things as you.
Emerse yourself in your new city. Sure, you're not that far from home and weekend trips to visit family wouldn't be too far fetched, but make them few and far between. Don't live to leave your new home. Live to explore and find out all that it has to offer you. Become a local.
Be sensitive to your wife. She agreed to pack up her life and move away from her home just for you. Make sure her needs are met. I imagine your shoulder will be her new favorite place to cry when she finds herself missing her mom.
You are lucky to have this experience. And you probably won't ever have a chance to do this again. Take advantage of this time to learn and grow and become more independent. In twenty years, you may just look back and think, "That was a great time!"
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So, to my little bros, never forget that I am here for you. I'll help you in any way that I can. You're always in my thoughts and prayers.
